Each of us carries yin and yang energies within us in varying degrees of strength. We need both energies, the feminine and the masculine, to live a balanced life. For as long as I can remember, my life has been about responsibility, discipline, achievement and performance. In other words, classic masculine yang attributes. Please don’t misunderstand. I am grateful that I was allowed to develop these qualities in my family even if they were born out of the belief: “I have to do everything humanly possible to be loved and accepted.”
When I look back on my life, I was in complete overdrive and like a driven person no wonder with that belief set ;-). And at the same time, I knew that with a strong will and the right hammer, I could hit any nail… In the process, my feminine yin parts – creativity, love and sensuality – completely fell by the wayside.
Since my separation 3.5 years ago, I have allowed myself to integrate these soft, sensitive parts more and more. I nurture this tender Yin plant so that it continues to grow. This is no child’s play. For the old programme has been well trained over decades and likes to trample young vegetables. I am all the more grateful that I can now see how far I have come. And that people around me lovingly remind me from time to time that I don’t have to do anything to be loved.
Charlie Chaplin once said: “When I began to love myself, I freed myself from everything that was not healthy for me: from food, people, things, situations and from everything that kept pulling me down, away from myself. In the beginning I called this “healthy egoism”. Today I know that is self-love.
Welcome to feel.
Welcome to the Yin.